Tuesday, 18 October 2016

BIG stuff! so what is 'normal'?

BIG stuff goes on in our lives, for ALL of us!

No-one’s skips this equation, because that’s life.  We all have families, friends, work, health, home, possibly kids, grandkids, extended family, all the relationships with all of these, and then there’s grief, and a multitude of anxieties about so many different ‘threads’ from these!

Considering that, it’s a wonder that we can get through life at all! I’m feeling dizzy just thinking about it!

The fact is, we are, only human, we’re not perfect, and cannot be ‘The perfect………….’   

Enter your own word lol!

I’m no different, cos I’m human too, I’m experienced in guiding you through, whatever, but, when it comes to myself, like you, I cannot see a bigger picture sometimes!  That’s cos I’m embroiled in my own stuff!

What I’m trying to say is, it’s okay to feel that, it’s ‘normal’, whatever ‘normal’ is. 

But sometimes, do you get that feeling, like something is missing in the jigsaw? Or your soul longs for something, that you cannot, for the life of you, put your finger on? Or maybe, your soul, yearns, for so much more, and you know what you want, but just don’t know, how to get there?

I’ve been there too many years ago, and since! Cos as I said ‘life happens’ through no ‘fault’ of our own, or maybe it was, but hey, there’s no judgement here.  It doesn’t matter ‘why’, if you still want to move forward, everyone can make mistakes, and work them out, if only we were born with an instruction booklet, but no we’re not, we have to figure it out, as we go along.

I know too, there can be so much around shame, or guilt with mistakes, but that's our way of learning.

Sometimes, many of us never had a ‘role model’ to follow, or come from broken homes, that give us insecurity issues – There’s so many different ‘stories’ out there, and of course my work is strictly confidential.

Sometimes, your inner self, needs, to talk about everything that’s going on.  I’ve experienced those ‘big’ questions about what is, life all about?  Then you hit other challenges, such as grief, or loss, that brings so many other big questions, it’s never ending, but that's what life is about.  We have to accept the good and bad, and deal with it all step by step.

Honestly, it is normal, you are no different to me, we’re all learning in life, as long as we’re here!  Learning and growth never stop, and as long as most of the time you ‘feel’ happy and contented with your life, you’re not doing bad at all!  We cannot expect life to run smoothly all the time, we are spiritual beings having a human existence!  As long as we still truly ‘feel’, and are not ‘avoiding’ our feelings with multiple distractions, or suppressants to escape our realities, then we are truly ‘living’.

It’s good to express yourself in whatever way, it’s usually bad, to ‘hold it all in’, that’s when dis-ease can get a hold.

So walk your talk, say what you need to say, (even if you’re talking to yourself!) express your soul, because you only get one life, make it a brilliant one!  And don’t wait too long to reach your dreams, or tell those you love, how much they mean to you regularly.  Don’t wait, the time is now!